For the past six years, my wife, "Charity" as the bikers call her, has been serving alongside of me as a partner in our urban ministry. Her giving spirit and ability to empathize with the hurting and marginalized has proven a valuable asset to our work. As we are telling the story of our ministry and work here in Colorado Springs, I thought that it would be fitting for her to share a story from her perspective. This is her first, but hopefully not last contribution to this blog.
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Acts 20:35 In all things I have shown you that by working
hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord
Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
Over the years, God has brought a lot of friends into our lives
though our ministry. Among many of these friends, this love that comes with a cost
is the most common form of love, often the only kind of love they have ever
experienced. In their mind their value is entirely wrapped up in what they have
to offer and how that is used to get something in return. Very carefully
balanced relationships of give and take are created and when you can no longer
hold up your end of the bargain you no longer have value. This idea of
intrinsic value is often not seen in the world in which we live and is probably
the greatest gift we offer to those we love. As we try to be Jesus-with-skin-on
to those God brings our way, the first seeds are planted by loving them just as
we find them. This is the love God offers us. When we were still messed up, God
sent His Son. He didn’t wait for us to
finally get it all figured out. He loved us as we were until we could believe
it for ourselves, trust His love and accept the relationship He offered.
For us loving this way has meant sitting in the homeless
camps over a cup of hobo coffee, meeting basic needs to build trust so they can
safely share their stories, wrapping our arms around them when life has meant
so much abuse and misuse that they can’t believe that God is even a
possibility. Sometimes it means loving their
family members who have watched them fall again and again so that they can find
another infusion of hope and strength. Some of them have tried religion in some
form and figured out pretty quickly that they couldn’t clean up enough or get
it all right long enough to ensure God could love them. (Sometimes the wounds
inflicted in the name of God are the deepest, most ingrained and hardest to
overcome.) They know their lives are
broken and they are so deeply entrenched in the lie that they have no value
that these simple moments of love begin to spark the idea that it is possible
for unconditional love to exist.
Often when speaking to people trapped in these lies, we talk
about how all people are created with a God shaped hole, and this is one
example of what we mean. We are created to want to be valued and loved, no
matter what, unconditionally; this void can never be filled with anything else.
As we love people in this way we allow
people to see God as He is. Some of us
need to see God first in a tangible form and once we do, faith can spark into
something personal and alive. That is why we are here, that is the goal of our lives,
to be love, to demonstrate who God is, and how He loves us to people who have
never experienced such love. By loving
this way we earn the right to speak truth to them, to talk to them about the
love and life Jesus offers.
Karen "Charity" Aldrich
OTHER POSTS IN THIS SERIES
What Have We Found Here: The Story of Our Mission - Part 3
What Are We Doing Here: the Story of Our Mission - Part 2
How We Got Here: The Story of our Mission - Part 1
You go girl!!! If I didn't know you I would say the post is too "air brushed" to be real. But I do, and it ain't.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing!
Great post, Charity/Karen! Hope to see more from you.
ReplyDeleteI hope you write more! loved all of it but especially "As we love people in this way we allow people to see God as He is."
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